This exchange of communication served as the basis for an agreement. He passed the test of an agreement because he had four parts, two for me and two for Peter. The test was "give and get." In this example, Peter repaired his computer and gave me the information in time. I gave the resources to fix the computer, and I received the report on time. The commitment to abandon expectations and make deals instead has worked best. Yes, it took time to make deals and figure out how to help others, but it was worth it. I often hear managers complain that their expectations are not met by their teams. I hear all kinds of professionals complaining about their employees or their customers. They expect a particular result or behavior, and they don`t get it. But they require early reflection and reflection. What do you want? How do you want? Until when? In what form? The more details you can include in the agreement, the less likely it is that there will be frustration or misinterpretation. While you will never be able to eliminate this process – it seems to be part of the human condition – the best strategy to deal with it, one area at a time, is to make deals with yourself that you are willing to stick to. Without really knowing what he was doing in the car, he asked me if I could start getting ready 10 minutes before the next time.
And I agreed. He took what didn`t work - his expectation, which was based on the request to leave at 1:15 a.m. - and he made a deal with me to get next time what he wanted, something that was clearly said and agreed by both of us. Agreements have the ability to change your life and relationships, but it`s a process. Don`t expect results overnight. Stay there and use the frustrations you have as clues to see your expectations clearer. Agree. Look at what`s going on. If it doesn`t give you the desired result, change course.
If you have expectations that relate to what another person will say or do, and they won`t, it can trigger a number of negative things – judgment, frustration, misunderstandings, anger – that can drive a wedge in the relationship. "No, of course not. But what was the deal? I asked Ron. Where things can start to get bad is when you have expectations of other people or yourself. An expectation is, if you have a strong belief, that something is going to happen. The expectation lives in you and is based on your vision of the world and your life experiences. The way things have gone in the past allows you to make certain assumptions about what you can expect in the future. In life, few things make us less productive and distant than other people`s expectations of us. Expectations are everywhere, at work and at home.
People hate other expectations. Un communicated expectations were not productive, especially when real work and strong relationships were needed.. . .